I don't know what's wrong with me lately. :( I'm just in a grouchy mood. I hate it. The whole time I'm in a bad mood and snipping at Jake, I think in my head "Stop! Hey Asia! Stop! He didn't do anything wrong" but for some reason my mouth just wont stop word vomitting! Yesterday I had a rough day. Jake and I had been together for four days straight so I don't know if that had something to do with it, but I was bitchy all day. We got in an argument about a traffic light! How redicilous is that? So dumb.
Our main argument right now is that I'm supposed to be starting a new job, which would be a great opportunity but I also already have an elective surgery scheduled. This surgery would make me a much more happy person but it would require me passing up the job. But the job is temporary, it only lasts until Oct 28th. But it would get my foot in the door with a great organization.... I want the surgery, he wants me to take the job. We're at a crossroads, which keeps creating arguments.
Yesterday I got spanked twice for my attitude. The second time we were laying in bed about to go to sleep, I can't remember exactly what I said but I know that it wasn't nice. Jake was spanking me harder than he ever has and I was still angry inside. The spanking hurt so bad, but I think it was more the anger that I was feeling, rather than the spanking.
I had a really stressful day today too. Left home at 8:30am and didn't stop moving or get home until 9:30pm. I'm a sleepy girl.
Goodnight everyone.
Asia
Friday, September 30, 2011
Hectic Days
Been a few hectic days. Tonight Jake is at work and I'll be home alone with the puppies. I will be sure to update! <3
Monday, September 26, 2011
Working on Laziness
So I have a bad habit... once I'm in my house for the night, that's where I like to stay. I don't like running out for little things here and there. Well, yesterday the dogs needed food and I had rented four (yes, four) movies, that needed to be returned before midnight. I literally had nothing to do all day, so I made the obvious choice and waited until about 9pm to start working on my "to-do" list.
Well, this first started off biting me in the ass because the pet store closed at 6pm, so the dogs had no food for dinner or breakfast! Poor babies! I didn't want to buy some random food for them at Walmart because they both have to be on a limited ingredient diet or else they get terrible intestinal problems which ends up on our carpet. So I made them some dinner at home.
Well, after I returned home from Walmart I realized I forgot to return ALL the DVD's. But ugh.... it was raining, dark and cold. As I stood in my doorway I looked outside and looked back at my couch with my favorite blanket calling my name, the choice was obvious. I really thought Jake wouldn't be too upset about not returning, but thus, I was wrong. You'd think I'd learn.
He came home in the morning, the first thing he said to me when he woke me up was about the movies, I confessed I didn't return them out of pure laziness. He told me I would be getting 5 strokes for every dollar the return fee cost. Dammit. Well, I don't think either of us really understood how much late fees are. I got out of bed and returned the DVD's with my tail between my legs. I expected it to be about a dollar a movie, but then the clerk handed me this receipt:
Seriously? $9.50? The movies weren't even 1 night late! They were about 8 hours late! My heart sank. It cost us $4.50 to rent the movies and $9.50 for the late fee. I quickly did my math... 9.5 X's 5 = oh shit.
So I got home and tiptoed around the subject for awhile. I left the receipt out on the table for Jake's casual viewing, which of course was right when he came into the living room.
As you may have read in my previous post, we got a new paddle that I HATE. We have deemed it our "extreme discipline" paddle. Well, I was certain that this was not going to be an incident for that, but yet again, I was wrong. I tried to talk my way into a bathbrush or bare bottom hand but obviously my pleas had no effect on Jake's already decided punishment.
I got 35 with the death paddle (10 off for being honest about being lazy, rather than lying and saying I forgot). It was pretty terrible. I didn't cry, I really thought I was going to. I feel like we need a different position, right now I am on all 4's on the bed. Jake said it's the easiest way to control me from wiggling and to see me in place. But I want to try a new position. What's your favorite spanking position? Love to hear some comments!
Ta ta for now!
Asia
Well, after I returned home from Walmart I realized I forgot to return ALL the DVD's. But ugh.... it was raining, dark and cold. As I stood in my doorway I looked outside and looked back at my couch with my favorite blanket calling my name, the choice was obvious. I really thought Jake wouldn't be too upset about not returning, but thus, I was wrong. You'd think I'd learn.
He came home in the morning, the first thing he said to me when he woke me up was about the movies, I confessed I didn't return them out of pure laziness. He told me I would be getting 5 strokes for every dollar the return fee cost. Dammit. Well, I don't think either of us really understood how much late fees are. I got out of bed and returned the DVD's with my tail between my legs. I expected it to be about a dollar a movie, but then the clerk handed me this receipt:
Seriously? $9.50? The movies weren't even 1 night late! They were about 8 hours late! My heart sank. It cost us $4.50 to rent the movies and $9.50 for the late fee. I quickly did my math... 9.5 X's 5 = oh shit.So I got home and tiptoed around the subject for awhile. I left the receipt out on the table for Jake's casual viewing, which of course was right when he came into the living room.
As you may have read in my previous post, we got a new paddle that I HATE. We have deemed it our "extreme discipline" paddle. Well, I was certain that this was not going to be an incident for that, but yet again, I was wrong. I tried to talk my way into a bathbrush or bare bottom hand but obviously my pleas had no effect on Jake's already decided punishment.
I got 35 with the death paddle (10 off for being honest about being lazy, rather than lying and saying I forgot). It was pretty terrible. I didn't cry, I really thought I was going to. I feel like we need a different position, right now I am on all 4's on the bed. Jake said it's the easiest way to control me from wiggling and to see me in place. But I want to try a new position. What's your favorite spanking position? Love to hear some comments!
Ta ta for now!
Asia
Saturday, September 24, 2011
New implement for repeat offense
So we tried out a new implement today for a repeat offense....
Scent is scientifically the easiest way to recall a memory. I'm sure there is at least one person we can think of that every time we step in their house, there's that amazing smell. Sometimes it's a cotton smell, sometimes it's carmel, pumpkin or whatever else. Well, I LOVE that idea. So I constantly keep our house burning with candles and warmers. I find the problem is that during the night when all of these things are put out, the morning brings a scentless house! So I have been keeping on the two warmers that I have. They rather small, night-light sized bulbs in them. Something like this:
Well, Jake has told me multiple times he does not want me to leave the warmers on at night for a variety of reasons. First the scent/smell overwhelms the house and the most obvious thing, it wastes electricity. But, I've persisted to leave them on night after night, justifying in my head that they are tiny bulbs and use just a small amount of electricity.
Two nights ago just before bed, Jake went out into the kitchen and turned both the warmers off and while he was in the bathroom I ran back out there and turned them both on :) assuming he was retiring to the bedroom for the night. Well, my mistake. It seems Jake had to switch his laundry from the washer to the dryer and he obviously saw the warmers on.
When he came back into the bedroom he was upset that I had deliberately turned them on, when he specifically asked me not to. Obviosuly. I received a fairly hard hand spanking, we talked for awhile and then went to bed. I think he was under the assumption that was enough to curb the habit, but he really under estimated my love for a scented house. :)
This morning Jake came home from work (He works 6am to 6am- 24 hour shifts) and to his surprise, when he came home, both warmers were on. I suppose I left them on in a slight attempt to see if he really cared about them or if he was just making a stink over nothing. Well, he cared.
He came into the bedroom and said nothing for awhile. We were cuddling and talking and then out of the blue came the "You left the warmers on, even after I told you to turn them off at night. You are going to have to get spanked for that". We were in a good moment so he didn't want to ruin it, so he saved it for later. It just so happened later brought the mail where we recieved our new paddle:
This is our new paddle, which can be bought here. It's a great website where all the paddles are home made and the shipping was ridiculously fast. I swear I'm not like doing a cheap plug for them, I'm just a happy customer who is happy to pass along the name of an honest and great company! ANYWAY... spanking time came and we (he) decided to use the new paddle. All I have to say it is, to date, the worst (but best!) implement that has been used on my bottom. It is a very heavy wood that leaves the sting of a bee and the thud of a elephant.
Jake brought me to the very edge of tears, I could feel them welling up in the corners of my eyes right as he stopped. I believe I only received 15 strokes, but honestly, this paddle did in 15 strokes what a half hour hand spanking couldn't do. It was awful.
Afterwords I apologized, still nearly on the edge of tears. We hugged, layed on the bed for a few minutes and now it is behind us.
Needless to say, I won't be leaving the warmers on at night any more. :)
With a sore bottom,
Asia.
Scent is scientifically the easiest way to recall a memory. I'm sure there is at least one person we can think of that every time we step in their house, there's that amazing smell. Sometimes it's a cotton smell, sometimes it's carmel, pumpkin or whatever else. Well, I LOVE that idea. So I constantly keep our house burning with candles and warmers. I find the problem is that during the night when all of these things are put out, the morning brings a scentless house! So I have been keeping on the two warmers that I have. They rather small, night-light sized bulbs in them. Something like this:
Two nights ago just before bed, Jake went out into the kitchen and turned both the warmers off and while he was in the bathroom I ran back out there and turned them both on :) assuming he was retiring to the bedroom for the night. Well, my mistake. It seems Jake had to switch his laundry from the washer to the dryer and he obviously saw the warmers on.
When he came back into the bedroom he was upset that I had deliberately turned them on, when he specifically asked me not to. Obviosuly. I received a fairly hard hand spanking, we talked for awhile and then went to bed. I think he was under the assumption that was enough to curb the habit, but he really under estimated my love for a scented house. :)
This morning Jake came home from work (He works 6am to 6am- 24 hour shifts) and to his surprise, when he came home, both warmers were on. I suppose I left them on in a slight attempt to see if he really cared about them or if he was just making a stink over nothing. Well, he cared.
He came into the bedroom and said nothing for awhile. We were cuddling and talking and then out of the blue came the "You left the warmers on, even after I told you to turn them off at night. You are going to have to get spanked for that". We were in a good moment so he didn't want to ruin it, so he saved it for later. It just so happened later brought the mail where we recieved our new paddle:
Jake brought me to the very edge of tears, I could feel them welling up in the corners of my eyes right as he stopped. I believe I only received 15 strokes, but honestly, this paddle did in 15 strokes what a half hour hand spanking couldn't do. It was awful.
Afterwords I apologized, still nearly on the edge of tears. We hugged, layed on the bed for a few minutes and now it is behind us.
Needless to say, I won't be leaving the warmers on at night any more. :)
With a sore bottom,
Asia.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Really cool article for D/d couples...
I found this article on Yahoo! News. It talks about 5 habits that tend to end marriages. I find it funny because ALL FIVE of the bad habits could be resolved in a D/d relationship.
Why can't society catch on that this way of life is absolutely amazing. I feel so sad when I see failed relationships or relationships that have so many issues that a simple warm butt could fix. :)
Check out this article, and let me know what you think.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/5-mistakes-i-continue-to-make-in-my-marriage-2563655/
For now,
Asia.
Why can't society catch on that this way of life is absolutely amazing. I feel so sad when I see failed relationships or relationships that have so many issues that a simple warm butt could fix. :)
Check out this article, and let me know what you think.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/5-mistakes-i-continue-to-make-in-my-marriage-2563655/
For now,
Asia.
So grateful for the support
I recently joined fetlife and spanko and I have become so fulfilled with all the new people I've met. I've had many Doms and subs message, IM, write on my wall etc. The out-pour of self-less minded people who are willing to give their time to share their experiences and advice almost overwhelms me.
We started this crazy journey alone and after recently joining all the forums and groups online, it has taken what was a great Dd relationship to a mind-blowing, unexplainable, fulfilling relationship. I can honestly say I've already seen a dramatic improvement in myself as a sub and in him as a Dom after the few short days we have been apart of such an amazing community! :)
A few special shout outs to Carolyn, Jill and Kalin for being some great gal pals. We are all going through the same experiences and it's amazing to be able to talk to them.
Can't wait to write more.
For now,
Asia.
We started this crazy journey alone and after recently joining all the forums and groups online, it has taken what was a great Dd relationship to a mind-blowing, unexplainable, fulfilling relationship. I can honestly say I've already seen a dramatic improvement in myself as a sub and in him as a Dom after the few short days we have been apart of such an amazing community! :)
A few special shout outs to Carolyn, Jill and Kalin for being some great gal pals. We are all going through the same experiences and it's amazing to be able to talk to them.
Can't wait to write more.
For now,
Asia.
Introduction! :)
Whenever I read spanko blogs, I love to image the personality of the people being talked about, beyond what is written about them. I will introduce us to you a little so reading can be more personal.
My name is Asia. No I don't have a sister named Europe, a brother named Nigeria and NO I'VE NEVER BEEN TO ASIA. Okay, so now that the questions are out of the way, we can move on. :) I'm 24 years old, will be 25 at the end of the year. I graduated college and realized I hated my degree. Since then I've been running my own online business. As an only child with two full-time working parents, I was always very independent and self-reliant. And I still am. I have a few character flaws, as we all do. :) I'm very fickle, I lose EVERYTHING, I'm emotional. I like not knowing what my day is going to contain, just going with where my mood takes me. I am not good at making plans in advance and rarely keep any appointments I make.
Jake is my preying mantis, this nickname started a long time ago but it has a lot of hidden meanings, maybe you can learn about them later :) He's extremely Dominate, organized, concise, likes to have every detail of every minute of every day planned out. He has NO character flaws. ;)
We met through a friend, he caught my attention while I was actually pursuing another boy in the bar. :) Jake is literally a DREAM. He cares so much about me, listens to everything I say, remembers everything I say (which isn't always good for me!), is spontaneous, romantic, dominate, cares so much about everything that I care about, and when he isn't interested... he acts interested. He'll listen to me talk on and on about clothing he's never heard of, fashion he doesn't pay attention to, friends he's never met drama, tv shows he's never seen any anything else I could ever think about. I love to talk, I could literally type in this blog until my fingers bled.
Our relationship is a little bit less extreme than a normal "spanko" lifestyle. We are pretty much living the dream in the D/s lifestyle. We have a few different dynamics, depending on who we're with. Around our families he is still dominate, as both our families know tid-bits about our lifestyle. Around our friends we remain very Vanilla. (lame!)
I love seeing him in different dynamics, like when we're with our friends and I know I'm open to joke and tease a little more, but must also be aware that consequences could follow.
I LOVE him. Our life is truly blessed by an amazing support system of family and friends. We've both been very fortunate with our upbringings and choices we've made in life.
Stay tuned for more updates. I plan to update daily on our life's little antics!
For Now,
Asia
My name is Asia. No I don't have a sister named Europe, a brother named Nigeria and NO I'VE NEVER BEEN TO ASIA. Okay, so now that the questions are out of the way, we can move on. :) I'm 24 years old, will be 25 at the end of the year. I graduated college and realized I hated my degree. Since then I've been running my own online business. As an only child with two full-time working parents, I was always very independent and self-reliant. And I still am. I have a few character flaws, as we all do. :) I'm very fickle, I lose EVERYTHING, I'm emotional. I like not knowing what my day is going to contain, just going with where my mood takes me. I am not good at making plans in advance and rarely keep any appointments I make.
Jake is my preying mantis, this nickname started a long time ago but it has a lot of hidden meanings, maybe you can learn about them later :) He's extremely Dominate, organized, concise, likes to have every detail of every minute of every day planned out. He has NO character flaws. ;)
We met through a friend, he caught my attention while I was actually pursuing another boy in the bar. :) Jake is literally a DREAM. He cares so much about me, listens to everything I say, remembers everything I say (which isn't always good for me!), is spontaneous, romantic, dominate, cares so much about everything that I care about, and when he isn't interested... he acts interested. He'll listen to me talk on and on about clothing he's never heard of, fashion he doesn't pay attention to, friends he's never met drama, tv shows he's never seen any anything else I could ever think about. I love to talk, I could literally type in this blog until my fingers bled.
Our relationship is a little bit less extreme than a normal "spanko" lifestyle. We are pretty much living the dream in the D/s lifestyle. We have a few different dynamics, depending on who we're with. Around our families he is still dominate, as both our families know tid-bits about our lifestyle. Around our friends we remain very Vanilla. (lame!)
I love seeing him in different dynamics, like when we're with our friends and I know I'm open to joke and tease a little more, but must also be aware that consequences could follow.
I LOVE him. Our life is truly blessed by an amazing support system of family and friends. We've both been very fortunate with our upbringings and choices we've made in life.
Stay tuned for more updates. I plan to update daily on our life's little antics!
For Now,
Asia
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